Finding meaning in our experiences—the good ones and the more troubling ones—can help us to better understand both what we’ve overcome and what our present challenges are. This is typically not a go-it-alone process, and while some find it difficult to ask for help, few regret it. Healing happens within relationships, including relationships with ourselves, but especially with others. When we find others who make us feel heard and seen, we feel alive, connected and safe.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned,
so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”― E.M. Forster
I believe that whether the goal of therapy is to address problematic behaviors, circular thinking, fractured relationships or unexpressed desires, we must look at these things without judgment and with curiosity in order to understand them. Some people need help getting in touch with cut-off feelings so they can know their authentic selves better, while others need help to contain overwhelming feelings so that they can think more clearly and make better choices. In all cases, my job is to help reveal unknown options, to be a witness to growth and to nurture resilience and recovery.